Relationship-although is it personal or business based, always prove to be that contrivance that made people feel important, happy, cared for, secure, respected, and they would be free to be themselves, which I think is the most beneficial card for the state of mind and contented life.
But if this relationship suffocates you and makes you feel depleted, drained, and even distraught that you should be ready to face a toxic relationship. The toxic relationship that one particular thing that always holds you back, never allow you to be yourselves.
It is like the germ that damages the well-being of your personality. A toxic relationship is the massive destructive cause of bonds between people and businesses.
Toxic relationships are not necessary to be the outcome of mousy, weak, and exhausted based relationships, but also sometimes the good build, healthy, and independent relationships are toxic and the partners couldn’t feel right about it but they also feel decrypted to end that relationship. A toxic relationship is like the virus in mind that soon ruins your peace and your personality. A persistent toxic relationship is all loss.
Love is the only thing in this world that contents every person who cherishes it. It gives joyous life with plans and dreams but knowing that you’re already in a toxic relationship can burn the plan and dream into the ashes of sorrows and regret.
It worsens when the person continuously burning to ashes in a relationship but refuses to quit it. This is the point from where the person who was enjoying the loftiest heights a few days ago is dashed on the ground with the pain that is more painful than the persistent toxic relationship.
Fixing A Toxic Relationship:
If you are a person with a motive of “LET GO WITH GRACE AND LOVE AND MOVE ON” and now you are trying to fix your toxic relationship with this motive will do nothing but hacked your heart in pieces because whenever you try to fix it, all the other person will never admire your point as he can’t be in your shoes anymore and he has emotionally moved on. So a toxic relationship can’t be fixed.
Signs That Assure You That You Are In A Toxic Relationship:
Being aware of the fact that you are in a toxic relationship is vital and protecting armed to help yourself from breaking and burn into ashes. Staying in a toxic relationship is like hovering a self-destruction button of your life.
It is not easy to quit a relationship, but knowing and recognizing your relation as toxic help you to draw a line around what is allowed to be in your life and what is not.
The relationship is a very beautiful thing and in it, you always are yourself; in doing so, sometimes you might have some issues that never meant that you have a toxic relationship. The issues that result in toxic relationships are consistency and intensity of the damage.
IT FEEL BAD, ALL THE TIME
In a relationship, the common factor is that the person feels so happy and contented of being with someone. For instance, the couple feels great pleasure to go to beds and sleep and they wake up with the same romantic happy mood but you feel so hollow in going to sleep and wake up with a more sad mood. It feels stung that other couples are so good at doing their couple things, whereas you have nothing to do with it.
YOU’RE ALWAYS TREATED LIKE YOU’VE CAUGHT UP
You have always been questioned like they don’t believe you or your way of love. Their questions are like the traps like; well you rather go with your friends or stay with me at home? Moreover, the statements sometimes are like crushing like; you enjoy so much talking to your boss. And after these things, they act like you’ve done such a miserable thing that is unforgettable and never be forgiven.
YOU FIND NO POINT OF SAYING WHAT YOU WANT
The relationship is the combo of your needs and feelings that include affection, appreciation, connection, validation, love, respect, sex. These are the things that both the partners wanted to be respected without saying. And when these ideas of relationships are ignored or mocked up, then the feeling of loneliness and emptiness take the place of that affection and love and then you find no point to say with your words that what you actually want. And there the gaps further had drawn.
YOUR PARTNER IS NOT making ANY EFFORT FOR YOUR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
Being physically in a relationship and acquiring in public that you have the best man doesn’t mean that you are completing your spaces in a relationship. Efforts with all hearts are what more precious. When there is no will to love you, spend time with you, sharing what is important to you, not willing to make memories, then the relationship is more taking than giving. And you feel suffocated to be with the person in physical only.
WHEN ALL THE LOVE, RESPECT, AND COMPROMISES COMES ONLY FROM YOU
A relationship is always between two partners, so all the work, love, and compromises come from both sides. If you are thinking that you can fix all things by giving enough love that can cover all, then you are only in fantasy. A single partner never is enough for a healthy relationship. You do what you have to; then, your partner has to do his duty in this relationship.
WHEN “NO” IS A DIRTY WORD
When saying “no” starts to be the biggest problem causing factor in your relationship, it is the biggest sign that now you are only accepted with your “yes,” and your partner is not ready anymore to accept any point of view of yours. No is a word that has its own importance in a relationship; don’t cut it off from your dictionary. And if you are not allowed with your wants and need and also your moods, then it’s time to say “NO” to your relationship.
WHEN YOUR PARTNER FOCUSES ON YOUR WEAKNESS
Making mistakes is part of our life and learnings. We make mistakes and learn from them to be correct afterward but it also helps us to find out the loyalty, love, and respect of others for us. If your partner continuously brought up your one mistake in every conversation only to ashamed you and feel guilty all the time, then this means he focuses on your weakness. And always remember partners are a strength to each other they always nurture your strength.
YOUR PARTNER IS NOT YOUR FORTIFIED WALL
In healthy relationships, couples are like a team. When the world throws a stone on any one partner second one is always there to protect his/her partner, especially publically. Couples are those whose partners stand for each other in public and correct each other in private. If you notice that always you are on your own in every problem and there is no backbone to handle you, then there is no need for such a partner.
PHYSICAL OR VERBAL ABUSE
Abuse-no matter what type is unacceptable in a relationship never ever in any way accept the abuses from your partner.
YOU ARE HAVING A DISGUISED PARTNER
If you can notice that your partner has snatched your ability to respond in any matter and always disguised the problem with a disguised behavior, then you shouldn’t need a disguised person to control your whole life. Healthy relationships are healthy because of their natural responses. If your partner disguised himself as an aggressive person and shout to shut you up, then this is the most coward behavior. Sometimes you see him disguised as a different person, sometimes like a manipulative person, sometimes like a villain hide inside a heroic false personality.
YOUR PARTNER NEVER RESOLVE ANY MATTER
Every relationship has issues but a healthy relationship always resolves their matters, and their problem never changes into a dispute or argument, whereas in a toxic relationship, the problem broke out a serious fight and ends with arguments without suggesting any result. Your every new matter is now a headache; then, you should have to take a disprin of freedom from this toxic relationship.
YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO BE A SUPPORTER, YOU COULDN’T BE THE ONE WHO NEEDS SUPPORT
In a healthy relationship, both partners also have their own life where sometimes they got stuck and need you on their back to support them. Couples can be a supporter but also sometimes they are the one who needs support. If you always have to listen to that, “Yeah, babe! I know you are going through the worse but my situation is the worst, try to understand me first” then you should understand that he will never ever understand you.
PRIVACY FEELS NOTHING TO YOUR PARTNER
Having personal privacy is not a big deal. There always should be a TRUST LEVEL between you two that your some of the privacy doesn’t bother him/her. Checking your locations, messages, bills, and all that is simply a sigh of most toxicity.
WHEN LIES ARE SO COMMON FOR YOUR PARTNER
Trust is the only thing on which the whole relationship is based. If you caught up with your partner for little things, then there is a great chance that somehow he can lie to you on any matter, and this broke the trust and also you. But for them, it’s just a little thing.
WHEN YOUR OPINION IS NOTHING FOR YOUR PARTNER
Relationships built only when the opinion of your partner in every aspect of your life is more important than anyone else. When you notice that your partner doesn’t need any words from you in any of his/her matters and they always just inform you like a formal person, then you shouldn’t have to keep it longer.
Now, reading this all, if you find out that you are already in a toxic relationship, then you must have to stop yourself now. You need a person who loves you with all his/her heart which assures your happiness and respect your voice, your privacy, your “NO.” There are a lot of people that will surely LOVE YOU!
You just have to be strong now and say “NO” to the toxicity that you’ve settled in your life.